People and "crises" and me
Nov. 10th, 2008 10:24 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
scottahillI'm sitting in a stairwell on campus hiding from a freak rainstorm until Jen arrives to pick me up. Figured it was a good time to post.
Most people seem to bond in the midst of shared crisis. This rainstorm is a good example: if a bunch of people were stuck together under some shelter, they'd probably be friendly with each other, talk about the rain, be pleasant. I'm not like that: for some reason, I HATE bonding over shared inconvenience or crisis. I hate finding myself in such a situation because I feel that people take it as an icebreaker, and I'm very uncomfortable with it. When I found myself in just such a situation a few minutes ago (sharing a shelter), the others (who may or may not have known each other) talked about hte downpour and what they were going to do, but I went over to the far end of the shelter and waited for them to leave. If I'm waiting for a plane and it's delayed, the thing that annoys me MOST is hearing other people complain about the delay (and heaven forbid someone try to strike up a conversation with me about it).
In Pride and Prejudice there's this notion that people have to be introduced to each other before speaking to each other. I think that's how I operate or how I'd like to operate. In Case 1 above I'm like Mr. Darcy, uncomfortable with the informality of people around me.
Jen's here gotta go. :)
Most people seem to bond in the midst of shared crisis. This rainstorm is a good example: if a bunch of people were stuck together under some shelter, they'd probably be friendly with each other, talk about the rain, be pleasant. I'm not like that: for some reason, I HATE bonding over shared inconvenience or crisis. I hate finding myself in such a situation because I feel that people take it as an icebreaker, and I'm very uncomfortable with it. When I found myself in just such a situation a few minutes ago (sharing a shelter), the others (who may or may not have known each other) talked about hte downpour and what they were going to do, but I went over to the far end of the shelter and waited for them to leave. If I'm waiting for a plane and it's delayed, the thing that annoys me MOST is hearing other people complain about the delay (and heaven forbid someone try to strike up a conversation with me about it).
In Pride and Prejudice there's this notion that people have to be introduced to each other before speaking to each other. I think that's how I operate or how I'd like to operate. In Case 1 above I'm like Mr. Darcy, uncomfortable with the informality of people around me.
Jen's here gotta go. :)
